Thank You for Triggering Me

Kayla Dhankhar
4 min readNov 17, 2022
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If you say something that triggers me, I will be so grateful to you.

Sure that may not be my instant reaction, I am not a saint. But after I move through the process that is recognizing and accepting my emotions, I will get there.

I want people in my life that are willing to be authentic.

That means they have to be willing to risk triggering me and other people.

If we all walk around with a trigger sensor on our lips, where will we be?

Trying to conform to what everyone else can handle of us. Continuing to reject parts of ourselves and put them in our shadow.

I am willing to trigger you if you are willing to trigger me.

And after the initial reaction of wanting to hide under our shells and protect ourselves, I hope we can come out and face what happened.

Why are you triggering me?

It’s not you doing something to me, it’s me doing it to me. You are just a catalyst, a mirror.

Let me walk you through my process.

First I have to notice I was triggered. Then I ask, “what was it that triggered me?”

The answer is never a person, but rather an action or often for me, words. Then it’s really the meaning that I…



Kayla Dhankhar

🌟 Empowering Empaths | Energy Healer | Life Coach | Light Language Artist🌟